Spanking and Corporal Punishment
Spanking and Corporal Punishment
Spare the rod spoil the child. Meaning: The notion that children will only flourish if chastised, physically or otherwise, for any wrongdoing.
Corporal punishment is the infliction of physical pain in response to wrongdoing, typically by methodically striking a particular part of the offender’s body with an implement such as a paddle, or with the open hand. Its purpose is to correct, reform and deter the miscreant, and to deter others from similar misconduct.
Spanking of children and teens, whether at home or at school, is the most usual kind of corporal punishment. Parents are urged by the Bible to spank their offspring when they misbehave, for instance in Proverbs 13:24 (He who withholds the rod hateth his son).
Billions of souls are burning now as we speak in the excruciating fire of hell since their parents refused to correct their children’s wrongdoings, and since they taught them evil habits and wrong ways. There is a perfect reason why sacred scripture commands chastisement in the education of our children!
“He that loveth his son, frequently chastiseth him, that he may rejoice in his latter end... Give thy son his way, and he shall make thee afraid: play with him, and he shall make thee sorrowful. Laugh not with him, lest thou have sorrow, and at the last thy teeth be set on edge. Give him not liberty in his youth, and wink not at his devices. Bow down his neck while he is young, and beat his sides while he is a child, lest he grow stubborn, and regard thee not, and so be a sorrow of heart to thee. Instruct thy son, and labour about him, lest his lewd behaviour be an offence to thee.” (Ecclesiasticus 30:1-13)
Don’t be fooled by the world. You do no sin whatsoever before God if you chastise your children in the education of righteousness. The world, or in truth, Satan, who rule this world, has made laws that says chastisement of children are wrong. This is one of many reasons he has succeeded to achieve the downfall of society! Remember that rebellious and ungodly children were one of the end times prophecies that the Bible mentioned (2 Timothy 3:1-5).
Darrel Reid, head of Focus on the Family – Canada, said that "The theological underpinning for family corporal punishment is tied up with the responsibility that God gives families for raising the young. You can find it particularly in the early books of the Bible, where God says your responsibility is not just nurturing but also correcting them."
In North America, the word "spanking" has often been used as a synonym for an official paddling in school, and sometimes even as a euphemism for the formal corporal punishment of adults in an institution.
In British English, most dictionaries define "spanking" as being given only with the open hand. In American English, dictionaries define spanking as being administered with either the open hand or an implement such as a paddle. Thus, the standard form of corporal punishment in US schools (licks with a paddle) is often referred to as a spanking, whereas its pre-1997 English equivalent (strokes of the cane) would never have been so described.
The word "licks" is also a common term in West-Indian countries, especially Trinidad & Tobago. It usually refers to any sort of spanking or beating or really any sort of physical punishment. Licks can involve "switches" or small tree branches, pieces of cocoyea, or basically any sort of object near by. These can also include belts, spoons, brooms, and even rolling pins.
In Britain, Ireland, Australia and New Zealand, the word "smacking" is generally used in preference to "spanking" when describing striking with an open hand, rather than with an implement. Whereas a spanking is invariably administered to the bottom, "smacking" is less specific and may refer to slapping the child’s hands, arms or legs as well as its bottom.
History of Corporal Punishment
Spanking is a common practice to punish a child who breaks school rules. Many American families also resort to it to teach a child discipline and make him more obedient. There are three forms of corporal punishments:
Parental: The child is spanked by the parents or guardians.
School: The child is subjected to punishment by school teachers or school authorities.
Judicial: The court of law orders whipping of the convicted offenders.
Corporal Punishment Facts
It has been a classic method of imparting punishment since ancient civilizations. It has not just melted out on children but adults as well. Its history can be traced back to the Middle Ages till the 19th Century, when it was handed out as a punishment for minor crimes and unlawful acts. Flogging, a type of corporal punishment, where a person is whipped with a rod or whip, was a common practice in the British army and navy. It was abolished from the army and navy as a disciplinary action, in 1874. The last record of flogging in the British prison was in 1962.
In the United States, it was acceptable for the teachers and school authorities to spank or whip the child as a mean of disciplinary action. It was forbidden from being used on girls and colored schools. White boys were subjected to this as it was thought that it would make them manlier and the process would pass down it to their children as a form of discipline.
Sweden was the first European nation to abolish corporal punishment. It was abolished in most of Europe by the late 1800s.
In the home
In many cultures, parents have historically been regarded as having the duty of disciplining their children, and the right to spank them when appropriate; tragically, however, attitudes in many countries changed in the 1950s and 60s. Since 1979, 30 countries around the world (at 2011) have outlawed domestic corporal punishment of children. In Europe, 22 countries have banned the practice. And in many other places the practice is considered controversial.
In Africa (not in South Africa), the Middle East, and in most parts of Eastern Asia (including China, Taiwan, Japan, and Korea), corporal punishment of one’s own children is lawful. In Singapore and Hong Kong, punishing one’s own child with corporal punishment is legal but not particularly encouraged. Culturally, many people in the region believe a certain amount of corporal punishment for their own children is appropriate and necessary, and thus such practice is accepted by society as a whole.
Studies have consistently found that:
Boys are spanked more than girls;
Mothers spank more than fathers;
Toddlers and preschoolers are spanked most often;
Religious conservatives are more favorable towards spanking;
Some groups, based on cultural and/or ethnic background are more likely to spank their children.
A common method of spanking is to have the child or teenager lying, stomach down, across the parent’s lap, with the parent bringing their open hand down upon the child’s buttocks. Alternatively, the youngster might be told to bend over, or lie face down across a bed. Spankings may be delivered over the trousers, over the undergarments, or upon the bare buttocks. In spanking the bottom is the safest place to administer the punishment, since there is little danger of injury to this part of the body.
Some people believes that the evidence seems to indicate that mild, nonabusive, physical punishment is not harmful when used occasionally, in a loving relationship, and in conjunction with other methods of discipline, most notably with reasoning. They say that the critical issue is the relationship between the parent and the child. If the child feels as if he or she is in a loving, trusting relationship with his or her parents, then the child usually understands that discipline, and even spanking, is for the good of the child. Thus, in cases where it’s easier for the child to understand why spanking to get him/her to obey is good for him/her, and more difficult for the child to understand why directly obeying is good for him/her, spanking would be the best option.
Some people consider that spanking used in conjunction with reasoning was the most effective type of discipline in some situations. They believe that certain guidelines must be kept in mind if parents choose to use corporal punishment. First, physical discipline should be limited to a couple of slaps applied by the open hand to the buttocks or legs. Second, it should only be used to back up less aversive disciplinary techniques and as a supplement to positive parenting. Finally, spanking must not be done while the parent is in an uncontrolled anger because it could escalate to abuse.
Reasons to spank your kids
Spanking has become a highly debated form of discipline in recent times, with some arguing swats on the bottom are "crimes". A generation ago, most kids felt the sting of a belt. Now, it’s time out. As with everything pertaining to kids, the effectiveness of discipline depends on the child. Timid, approval-seeking kids are usually good with a time-out. But there are some children who like to push their limits. Those are the children who may require a pop. Knowing your child is the key to nailing down the most effective forms of discipline. While some studies have shown the negative effects of spanking, today’s disrespectful youth have shown what happens when necessary spanking is forgone.
“Know also this, that, in the last days, shall come dangerous times. Men shall be lovers of themselves, covetous, haughty, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, wicked, without affection, without peace, slanderers, incontinent, unmerciful, without kindness, Traitors, stubborn, puffed up, and lovers of pleasures more than of God: Having an appearance indeed of godliness, but denying the power thereof. Now these avoid.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
Controlled, purposeful spanking is not abuse. Impulsive spanking out of anger and frustration could easy lead to abuse. Believe it or not, it is not unrealistic to teach a child to obey the first time—tough but not impossible. If you’re not spanking and you have a child who is testing you time and time again, you may want to consider picking out a switch before he (or she) ends up in a pretty rough undisciplined life. Here’s why:
You have to love your child enough to be tough and do what is necessary to get the desired result. Parent first, friend second.
2. You want to be respected.
To be feared (in the sense of reverence) is to be respected. Your children should be weary of going against your rules. It also teaches them to submit to authority regardless of whether or not they agree.
3. You want to teach them how to make good decisions.
Our destinies are determined by decision-making. Children have the option to obey or face the consequences, and they need to know consequences hurt.
4. You want them to have self-control.
When you are aware of what is on the other side of making a poor decision, it is easier to exercise restraint.
5. You want them to be accountable.
Every decision has an outcome, good or bad. Just as your reward your child for the good, you must also acknowledge and address the bad.
6. You want to set standards.
Children need limits to learn how to grow up with restraint. They will never be able to do whatever they want. Teach them to live by the rules set in place.
7. You see strength not weakness.
Western parents seem to assume fragility rather than strength. Spanking your child properly is not going to damage their self-esteem. Accepting mediocrity and dismissing poor behavior teaches them to indulge in being weak.
8. It works best.
Some kids need it, period. When time-out, talking and taking away toys doesn’t work, you have to get that butt.